Words....

I couldn't sleep last night. I decided to look up a t shirt I had seen on Etsy with the "Adoption is the New Pregnant" phrase on it as I had seen it earlier and read that the family who is selling them is using the money towards their adoption. I thought, "wow, how cool." But, as I was searching I came across two blogs with a completely different message. These were blogs against the making of the shirts and the saying "adoption is the new pregnant" all together. Now, we are each entitled to our own opinion and our experiences and journeys life has taken us through have molded and formed our thought patterns. The things these women were saying were so hurtful. My heart broke. I cried and touched my belly. Feeling that emptiness all over again the same as when I heard the words, "you can never get pregnant." The woman who started the blog said it was the most offensive statement she has ever heard and adopting does not make you a mother. She went on to say hurtful things such as its not the worlds fault that some women can't get pregnant, but that doesn't give them the right to take other women's children. She went on to say countless nasty things about women who adopt. Now, I shouldn't let it bother me, but it did. It still does. My heart hurts today. By saying, "adoption is the new pregnant" am I offending women who have and will give birth? Am I offending our future birth mom? In no way is that my intention. I'm simply trying to find peace and happiness in my situation. And no matter what I trust and know in my heart that I will be a mother. And I will always have the highest regard and love for the woman and man who made that possible.